Marriage, Our Story

Introduction

If you are reading this then your marriage is more than likely in trouble and if that is the case I want you to know that I have already begun praying for you and that I stand in faith and I join you in praying for the healing of your marriage. I write our story as my testimony because my marriage needed the healing power and grace of God and so did my life. I did not want my children to live as another statistic of divorce. They didn’t ask for this and they deserve more. My husband deserved more. I deserved more. But this time it would be with God the center of our lives, even if it had to begin with only me and God. The story I am about to share with you took place when I was married only 7 years. As of this writing you can see the date on this we now have been married 38. What I also hope that you get out of this testimony is that whether or not if you are married or single these are life principles that you can live by in all aspects of your life if you are willing to apply them. 

I was raised up in a church. I was baptized when I was 7 years old. But it wasn’t until I was 23 years old that I truly accepted Christ as my Lord and I asked Him not only to come into my heart but I asked Him to take this life of mine and make it His. I married my husband when I was 16 years old. At 19 I suffered an identity crisis wondering who I really was. When I gave some thought to that I realized that I had always been someone’s someone. I was someone’s daughter, someone’s sister, someone’s wife and someone’s mother. But who was I? I searched my mind and my heart and I just didn’t find these answers.  Three years later I found myself in the same place with a husband who left me and said he wanted a divorce. With my father’s concern and love he told me not to worry, everything would be alright, that He would take care of me. But somehow I had come to a point in my life where I knew there were no answers and the thought of how other people would help me I was not finding comfort in that. The only thing I knew to do was fall to my knees. I cried out to God and said if You are real then please come into my life and make it your own because I don’t know how to live it anymore. 

I stayed up all night long talking and listening to God. The next morning as the sun rose I took a walk outside and for the first time since I was a child I found myself holding my head high and realizing that if God has forgiven me than that is all that truly matters. As I followed Him and trusted Him God would make all things new, He would make all things right. I didn’t have to be ashamed for I was new and I was a Child of the Most High God. I have learned over the coming years that God really loves BIG time. 

As the days past I was washing dishes and I was talking to God. I said to Him, You know God I know that You have healed people in the Bible and I believe that You still heal today. And God I ask that You heal my marriage because I know God that You can. And He spoke to me and said “Turn your television on right now to channel 21 (Trinity Broadcast Network). And grab your tape recorder because your husband will want to hear this someday and this will be useful to you in helping others as well.” So I did and the first words out of the television were “Today we are going to talk about “Born again marriages.” I was so amazed for this was the first time I had God speak to me like that and then have it confirmed with those first words of the TV program. That was more than enough of an answer for me to know that Yes God was going to heal my marriage but I had to stand in faith and do my part. And if I thought I had serious and not healable circumstances I was so wrong. I heard testimonies of so many other couples who had worse situations than I and yet their marriages were healed and so where their lives. 

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And it wasn’t easy, my faith and my patience were really tested in the weeks and months to come. I really had some struggling times in this and I felt impatient as things didn’t happen as fast as I wanted and things didn’t happen as I wanted them too. But in the end things happened even better than I could have imagined. When things really begin to pull us down and make us feel as if we are loosing our faith we must cling to the promise that “The faithful love of the Lord never ends! His mercies never cease. Great is His faithfulness; His mercies begin afresh each morning” Lamentations 3:22–23, NLT. I had my weak moments but God made me want to get back up and keep pressing on so I could live what He was going to do in my marriage and in my family and in my life. And for you I am excited that even though there will be valleys your life is on its way up again. When you loose your footing, just get back up and keep walking. God will take your hand, just ask Him. And you can be even stronger and find a happiness you have never known before. 

(Unless noted I am using the Amplified version of scripture.)

God’s Will On Marriage, His Promise To You

One of the reasons that many marriages do not work out is because the couple doesn’t  have Jesus in their lives. Hosea 4:6 tells us that “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.”  People do not understand because they do not seek Him and His answers. They do not know that He can and He will heal marriages. There are people we should expect to hear this from like pastors but even many of them will try to comfort you and encourage you to go to that singles class or tell you to face this and not continue to set yourself up for more hurt. But God shared with me even as I went through the process of change and healing in my own marriage that one day my experience would be a testimony to you and I was to share it and encourage you to trust God to heal what you can’t, what the people of this world cannot. God can give you feelings you do not feel you have anymore. You need to ask Him for them back and He will give you more than you think of asking Him for. Marriage is a test of your relationship with God. He doesn’t want you to fail.  

One of the first questions we want answered is what is God’s Will on marriage and divorce? This can be found in the scriptures of the Bible. “What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder” Matt. 19:6.  When I look up the word “asunder” in the dictionary I find that it is to take apart and to separate. What God hath joined together, let no man take apart or to separate.

God said in Genesis 2:18-25 “it is not good that man should be alone;  I will make him a helpmate. And this is when God formed out of the ground every beast of the field and every fowl out of the air and He brought them to Adam to see what he would call them and so Adam named every living creature. Yet, out of all of those Adam didn’t find a helpmate for him. The Lord caused a deep sleep to come upon Adam and He took one of his ribs and closed his flesh up. God then took that rib and He made woman and He brought her to Adam who said this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh and she shall be called Woman because she was taken out of man.  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they were not ashamed.  You need to understand that Eve was the first wife and she was made of actual flesh and bone of Adam and so they literally were of one flesh.  And God looks upon your marriage as “one flesh” as well. 

Malachi 2:14-16 says yet you ask, Why does He reject it? Because the Lord was witness [to the covenant made at your marriage] between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously and to whom you were faithless. Yet she is your companion and the wife of your covenant [made by your marriage vows].15 And did not God make [you and your wife] one [flesh]? Did not One make you and preserve your spirit alive? And why [did God make you two] one? Because He sought a godly offspring [from your union]. Therefore take heed to yourselves, and let no one deal treacherously and be faithless to the wife of his youth. 16 For the Lord, the God of Israel, says: I hate divorce and marital separation and him who covers his garment [his wife] with violence. Therefore keep a watch upon your spirit [that it may be controlled by My Spirit], that you deal not treacherously and faithlessly [with your marriage mate].

God’s Will on Divorce

This clearly states that God hates divorce. Divorce is an abomination to Him and so you can be certain that God is on the side of the one wanting Him to heal their marriage.  And to you the one wanting for Him to heal your marriage I want you to be aware of God’s promise to you in 1 John 5:14-15.  And this is the confidence (the assurance, the privilege of boldness) which we have in Him: [we are sure] that if we ask anything (make any request) according to His will (in agreement with His own plan), He listens to and hears us. 15And if (since) we [positively] know that He listens to us in whatever we ask, we also know [with settled and absolute knowledge] that we have [granted us as our present possessions] the requests made of Him.

Praying According to God’s Will

If what you pray for is against God’s will then there is no use to pray for it. The good news is you can find His will in His Word the Bible. His word is not a secret, its not hidden, it is not a mystery. But now you know that God’s will is for your marriage and you know that God hates divorce. We can have confidence and know with all certainty that He will answer this prayer in His own timing. We have to be patient and know that while we are waiting He is working in areas we are not aware of not only in ourselves but in the life of our spouse. His timing is important, He knows what He is doing.

In Matt. 19:26 “With God all things are possible.” Numbers 23:19 “God is not a man, that He should tell or act a lie, neither the son of man, that He should feel repentance or compunction [for what He has promised]. Has He said and shall He not do it? Or has He spoken and shall He not make it good? What God has joined together let no man put asunder doesn’t just mean certain people or certain marriages. It does not matter the circumstances or how bad the situation is, God can, God wants to heal and He will. Only He can. Trust Him, not the world of man and what this world tells you. Even the most admired people you know can lack the knowledge of what God’s word promises. Let His word feed you.

Whether or not your spouse is in agreement with you or not about the healing of your marriage say a prayer according to God’s will of what you have read here today and know that God’s word is not void just because one of the partners isn’t in agreement or has given up. You must walk in faith and know that God will change the circumstances to make His Word come to pass because He magnifies His word above all His name. For in Psalm 138:2 it says I will worship toward Your holy temple and praise Your name for Your loving-kindness and for Your truth and faithfulness; for You have exalted above all else Your name and Your word and You have magnified Your word above all Your name!   God’s Word does work no matter how horrible or far gone you think your marriage is. 

I can assure you that I do not have to know the situation and circumstances of your failing marriage, but only if it makes you feel better to share it. For I know the works and the promises of the Almighty God and I know the changing power of prayer in my own healed marriage and so many situations in my life since that time in which my marriage was ending and my life was falling apart. This crisis brought me to the point where I knew that nothing or no one else was going to be able to fix any of except the Almighty God. 

 Confession is Taking Possession

In Mark 11: 23-24 it says “For verily I I say unto you that whosoever shall SAY unto this mountain, be thou removed and be thou cast into the sea’ and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he SAITH shall come to pass, he shall have whatsoever he SAITH. Therefore I say unto you, what things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them and ye shall have them.”

So you are “whosoever” and you marriage is your mountain. And since Jesus tells us to speak to that mountain, then speak to your marriage and say “Marriage be healed and divorce be cast into the sea! God formed the world with His words! Remember He said “Light be” and it was. He spoke the world into existence and He has given you the creative power of words. I am all the time telling people to speak their existence.  Proverbs 18:21 "The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit." Which words will you chose? The positive words of life or the negative words of death? Those negative words that steal, kill and destroy life. The power of your life is in your words, so speak them well and give life by speaking them well of others too. Be an encourager even to yourself.

In Matt. 12:34 and Luke 6:45 tells us that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. Now remember where it says and “shall not doubt in his heart?” We speak our existence with our words. And if you believe you are sick then you can make yourself become sick.  Or if you use your words to pity yourself or say you will never be anyone, that you will always be poor, then your words are directing your life. You are exercising your faith of poverty and defeat. Romans 10:10 tells us that if we confess Jesus as Lord then we speak our salvation into existence!  It is a spiritual law and it works for the saved and unsaved that what you believe and what you will say and you will get it. In Hebrews chapter 11 it tells us that “Faith without Actions is dead.” Faith must be exercised by actions of belief that God will do what He says He will do for you. You are the faith activator. If you speak negative words then God cannot work. 

Proverbs 6;2 says “You are snared by the words  of your mouth.”  Do not give life to negative words and practice this in every area of your life and when speaking to and about others. Confession is possession so confess with your mouth that God is healing your marriage that He is speaking to your spouse and changing him or her. I remember being hurt and discouraged by my husband’s words and actions, but instead of showing and telling him how it made me feel I just went and told it all to my God. He is the only one who can do anything anyhow, the only one who can heal and change people and situations. 

The more you speak those positive words the more those words become stronger and you will become more confident. The moment you pray those prayers for God’s will in a matter God has then already begun to work on it. What motivates God is your faith! You see, faith is believing that God is at work doing what He says and promises He will do, even though you cannot see the work. When this law becomes a reality in your heart, you will be able to watch what you say in every single area of your life. You will truly possess what you confess.

When you have God’s Will on a matter and have prayed according to His Will, the moment the prayer was out of your mouth, God started the spiritual wheels turning to bring your prayers into physical manifestation. You know God will do what He says He will do, and out of the abundance of the confidence in God that you have in your heart, you will tell anyone who asks, “I believe that God is healing my marriage.” And the more you speak it, the more it will  become reality inside of you and you will not be able to entertain any other negative thoughts. 

Important note: The only thing that motivates God is FAITH! Faith is believing God that your prayer is answered before you see it! Before your spouse ever acts like it! Crying , begging and pleading do not motivate God. Only FAITH turns God’s power loose on your behalf because He said so and God cannot break His own Word, no matter how his heart hurts when His children are in trouble. Reminder: Hebrews 11:1 says “Now FAITH is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. 

In II Cor. 4:18 says “While we look not at the things which are seen, (your spouse, your marriage are things seen) but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal which are subject to change, but the things which are not seen are eternal,” (God’s work, God’s power, God’s spiritual laws). You can look at strong tall building, you can see them; but an earthquake can destroy them in just seconds Whatever you can see is subject to change. If people try to tell you that your spouse will never change remember this: he or she is subject to change! 

The only way you can put a damper on God’s power is with your mouth by speaking words of doubt and disbelief. Your daily life must be “I walk by faith (in the Word of God) not by sight” II Cor. 5:7. You must be utterly determined not to be moved by what your spouse says or does, including filing for a divorce if it goes that far. You must not be swayed by all the weak, double minded Christians even that satan will most definitely send your way who haven’t known how to get anything by faith if their life depended on it and yet there are some that simply do not know or are not there yet in their walk with God.  In James 1:6-8 says a double-minded man will receive nothing of the Lord. Stay away from people who try to get to make an alternative plan “in case he/she doesn’t come home.” They may as well say, “In case God is a liar and weak and can’t make His Word good.” It is a given that if you confer with everyone you know, you’ll get some of this kind of doubt and have any number of chances to come off your confession. 

When I realized that I had to “live my life by this type of faith” I not only spoke the words, I put my wedding ring back on, I made room in my closets and in the drawers for His clothes to be placed back there. I slept on my side of the bed instead of sleeping in the middle. I put my Bible on his pillow each night. I even became strong enough to speak those positive words to my young children who began speaking them too. We prayed together for God to heal our family. 

What is the Greatest Faith Robber?

Sympathy is your greatest faith robber. If you are going to continue to stand in the healing of your marriage there is no place for your pity party. I am not saying that you can’t have down right crying moments, but do not stay there long. You can get back up and fight the good fight. You can!  You have asked your Father to answer your prayers concerning the healing of your marriage. You have cast your cares upon Him, mediating in His Word 24/7, delighting yourself in Him. You must cast cares and focus yourself on Him, not the symptoms of a broken marriage that you carry. You know that Peter walked on water until he took his eyes off Jesus and looked at the world’s reality around him. 

Satan can only attack you in the five physical senses. We can battle him with our spiritual weapons which are mighty to defeat him. Do not allow his negative mind games  get you off your faith confession of what only the Lord can do. You can cast down those negative thoughts and comments that say the Word of God is not true for you and your situation than the present physical circumstances that every one can see. You know what those circumstances are subject to change! II Cor. 10:6 says, “And we will be ready to punish every act of disobedience, once your obedience is complete.”  This verse talks about disobedience, that according to the flesh, or negative imaginations satan will attempt to tempt you in or find you taking part in is disobedience! Verse 7 says, “You are judging by appearances. If anyone is confident that they belong to Christ, they should consider again that we belong to Christ just as much as they do.”

You have to realize that your mind is your biggest battleground, your very own mind! The moment that you begin praying for your partner God has begun doing a work in their heart.  But, if you are going to be discouraged by how he/she acts or talks you are in big trouble. The way they speak or act may not change in appearance to you for a while, but do not loose hope. I was willing to wait ten years, but the key is when you are prepared to wait forever, it usually doesn’t take very long. 

Take comfort in this fact: God will manifest your prayer as soon as He knows you are able to handle it. And you can speed up or slow down the process of God’s work by how faithful and quick you want to line yourself up to the healing of this marriage. If things do not seem to be showing any progress you can be sure it is not God’s fault. So check yourself. You must keep in constant spiritual communication with the Father. 

Faith check: are you speaking with your flesh and blood or with your faith (your spiritual side)? Ironically when you ask God to change things be prepared that it may be you! The good news is that satan won’t waste time around you when you are prepared to wait until the day Jesus comes if necessary. With faith like that why would satan want to spend so much time on your situation? 

This is your perfect opportunity to get to know Jesus better than you ever have before, so use this time for you and Him. Read His Word every opportunity you get, His love letter to you. Feed your spirit-man, not your doubting Thomas. Don’t waste your time in doubt and negative influences. Surround yourself in positive things. You know the Bible tells us that the Word is the truth and the truth will set us free! Satan’s word is null and void, it produces nothing good.

God witnessed your marriage and He said it was good. Mark 4:24 says, “Take heed what you hear!” You have heard that saying “garbage in garbage out.” How can you continue to stand in faith if you are not speaking faith and hearing faith into your situation? Pray more than you ever have before, die to self and realize that Jesus gave Him SELF for us and we didn’t even love Him. He is our example as to how to love our partner, love whether he or she loves us right now or not. Jesus says, “Love them as I have loved you!”

Matthew 6:33 teaches us “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness and all these things shall be given to you.” This includes your healed marriage. For you to learn to operate in love at all costs gives satan no right to hinder your prayers. He knows no such love.

You must have your faith put into action! It demands it! You can’t just speak it you must act like it! God says that, “Faith without works (actions) is dead.” You will find this in James 2:14-16.  An example to you is when Naaman, the leper, had to go wash in the river seven times and he was really mad about it for it sounded like a silly “action” to have to take, but he did and he was healed. And Jesus saw the faith of the men who hauled their paralyzed friend up on a roof and broke through it to place the sick man down to Jesus to heal and He did so. You see you can’t worry about what other doubters or unbelievers will think of your faith. 

You must show Jesus that you believe He will do what only He can do! This is what He is seeking from you, faith that says you truly believe He will do it. These men had to have felt it was well worth the time and the actions they took.

I went through many feelings after my husband left me. I was pretty mad at him and I soon realized that I had to put my faith into actions and so some of the things I did was:

1. I wore my wedding rings.
2. Where I spaced my clothes out where his were missing I then moved mine back over and left room for his to come back. I also did that with the drawers. 
3. I put my Bible on his pillow at night.
4. I spoke positive of him, my husband. 
5. I took all my negative thoughts and feelings to God and one trusted believer who committed to stand with me. I did not speak those to my husband.

Patience is vital here because depending on what your actions or your works are showing it can also negatively reflect that you don’t believe God is going to heal your marriage, so be careful. Getting mad at God or going out drinking or if another attractive person comes along deciding to pass your time with that one and deceiving yourself that if it’s God’s Will to heal your marriage He will do so no matter what, you are wrong. This is a lie from the pit of Hell. You have to know that satan is at battle and he will do anything he can to get you off your faith. 

His actions can be sweet as pie and seem so good and intentionally meant for you. Beware! God is not happy with actions and thoughts such as this. God does not break His Covenants. Even our world expects contracts to be carried out so how much more should we honor a contract with God than the world? Yes, even if we cannot see Him! 

Get your Bible and read now Matthew 19:3-9.  This is extremely important to note: Jesus said the only reason Moses “allowed” (He did not say command as the Jews did) the people to divorce was because of the hardness of their hearts.” 

The Old Testament people were not born-again, did not have the Holy Spirit in their hearts nor the love of Jesus in them that is available to all New Covenant people like you and me. Hardness of heart was not created in man by God; it came when man committed high-treason to God and took on the satanic sin-nature. We are free from sin and it’s dominion over us if we are born-again. 

The Old Testament people weren’t and God knew it and therefore He was more tolerant of them then. You see, this is the difference today and how we deal with our marriages, we have Jesus. Back then Jesus had not come yet into this world and made new life possible. Jesus said, from the beginning it was not so, i.e. before man gave dominion of the earth to satan. In other words, God didn’t provide a divorce clause for Adam and Eve; it came with the Law as a provision until Jesus came! He has come and He has risen, this is our good news!

Jesus said in Matthew 18:22 we must forgive each other not seven times but seventy times seven; this includes even adultery! God didn’t intend to leave men or women with hard hearts. In Ezekiel 36:26-28 God tells us, “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws. Then you will live in the land I gave your ancestors; you will be my people, and I will be your God.”

Even if your spouse is not saved it is according to God’s Will that any person be saved. 1 Timothy 2:3-4 says, “This is good, and pleases God our Savior, who wants all people to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth.” 1 Cor. 7:10-16 says “Unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, let not the wife depart from her husband; But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband; and let not the husband put away his wife. But to the rest I, not the Lord; If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath a husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; else were your children unclean but now they are holy. But if the unbelieving depart, a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases; but God hath called us to peace. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? Or how knowest thou, O man, whether shalt save thy wife?”

The first four verses again repeat the Lord’s commandments about no divorce and here is verse 15. On first glance, it seems to contradict the first four verses. however “depart” does not mean “divorce!” It simply means if your partner has left you or threatens to leave, be cool, keep the peace. If he goes, he goes but...God doesn’t say you can’t pray  him right back home again! And the 16th verse is easier to understand in the New English Bible; “Think of it’ as a wife you may be your husband’s salvation; as a husband you may be your wife’s salvation!” So we see that verses 15 and 16 do not mean “if your unsaved partner leaves you, just divorce them because how do you know if they’re ever going to get saved?” as some people have tried to say who wants to bend God’s Word. That’s contrary to 1 Timothy 2:4 which says it’s God’s Will for all to be saved and you can pray for their salvation and get it according to Mark 11:24.

Did you know that your partner really isn’t the problem here? And here is why…..

“For we wrestle not against flesh an blood but against principalities, against powers, against rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” Ephesians 6:12

So of course as humans we are flesh and blood. So God is saying here that your battle is not against each other, but against the four names classifications of demonic powers.  You are a spirit, you have a soul and you live in a body. The real you is your spirit. Your spirit is governed by spiritual forces. 

There are two sources of spiritual motivation-The Holy Spirit and satan and his hired hands or demons. Life is a moment-by-moment decision for or against Christ. If you hear a thought in your head that you can’t picture Jesus saying to you, then you know where it came from; pitch it, don’t act on it. Thoughts motivating you to criticize, nag or condemn your partner are not from Jesus. You are not under condemnation either. Romans 8:1. Our God is a god of love and He would not speak destruction to His children.

I am not saying that everyone is demon possessed. Satan is called the prince of the power of the air in Ephesians 2:2 and we must be aware that satanic spirits can hover around us and try to motivate and influence us in the thought realm. Sometimes deliverance is necessary but when you sense the gloom and the depression in your house, those spirits are in the air and you need to take authority over them and command them to leave in the Name of Jesus. The two of you may be in argument, say hurtful and angry things to one another its not the person but the one who chose to buy into the satanic motivation because they heard it or thought it was their own and acted on it. 

And just so you know Satan loves to overuse this tactic as much as possible! You however can now recognize this and can avoid participating in it. You now should be able to recognize that satan is using your partner. And he can use you too and sometimes satan uses this with other people, even those who really truly love you, are used to get you to give up on your marriage.

Every born-again person has the right to take authority over satan; Jesus bought us that right with His own blood. Its a shame for us to be stomped on by satan because of our ignorance of spiritual warfare. “Jesus came to destroy the works of the devil.” I John 3:8. Divorce is a work of the devil. “The thief cometh not but to steal and kill and to destroy” John 10:10. Divorce certainly is destruction. 

God’s most highly-ordained unit on earth is marriage. God created it, He esteems it. Marriage is a trial period in this age for life with Jesus in the next. It gives the Father-love, part of God’s great joy when His children find happiness in each other, the partners He has given us, in a holy and undefiled marriage relationship. Satan hates God; therefore he hates God’s children too! He knows two united are more powerful than one, Matthew 18:19 for instance. So satan’s aim in marriages is divide and conquer! 

He fights dirty, real dirty! Sometimes he uses something obvious like alcohol or drugs; then again if he can just keep them for ever totally agreeing and working together on anything, they are divided. Note later on how many One-Flesh scriptures tell us to be of one mind; you can see why. Sometimes he’ll assign frigidity or touch-me-not demons to one or both partners forcing them into extra-marital affairs. Affairs are in satan’s sin domain and he won’t sic his demons on them; that’s why a affair can seem s-o-o-o perfect. Just let a person divorce his wife, marry the partner of the affair and satan will immediately attack that relationship too. If that were not true, changing partners would be the answer; instead we know of people on their third and fourth divorce!

In James 3:16 it teaches us that “For where there is envying and strife there is confusion and every evil work.” Think about it!  Every evil work! That’s is a whole lot of evil. Strife is a great weapon of satan. Strife gives him legal entry anywhere If you see strife coming in, run in another room if you have to, but stop it! 

Say with authority, “You spirit of strife, I command you in the Name of Jesus to leave.” And you know what, it must leave! Resist the devil and he WILL flee from you according to James 4:7. In Proverbs 20:3 “It is an honor for a man to cease from strife, but every fool will be meddling.” You have the responsibility to stop strife. It takes two to be in strife so if you do not allow yourself to be in it, then it can’t live. 

It is more important to avoid strife than to appear justified. Fear is a literal spirit sent from satan. II Timothy 1:7 says “For God hath NOT given us the spirit of fear...” If fear begins to pour over you like a flood, recognize what is happening and command it to leave in the mighty Name of Jesus. Speak boldly and with authority, it is yours! Jesus died and basically went through hell to get it for you. Use it! Colossians 2:15 says “And having spoiled principalities and powers, he made a show of them openly, triumphing over them in it.” 

Other literal spirits sent to attack us are depression, oppression, anger, doubt, confusion, and God is not the author of confusion I Corinthians 14:33.  Also even suicide is nothing more than a spirit working for a defeated foe whose only real weapon is our ignorance and complacency. 

Praise is a spiritual weapon against satan! Have you ever tried counting to 20 and saying the Lord’s Prayer in your head at the same time? It’s impossible. Praise God loudly and enthusiastically and know that depression or anger won’t stay in your head very long! “The Lord inhabits the praise of His people/children” Psalms 22:3. Satan can’t stand to hang around very long where God is present and being praised and thus he can’t accomplish his purposes in your life, his destruction in your marriage. 

I remember being so hurt by the words of my husband and his comings and goings in our lives. I literally had to take my marriage to the foot of the cross. I had to find God’s peace to trust Him to do what He promised to do for me and heal my marriage. So I decided not to fight, to let my husband begin to see the real me, the person God was intending for me to be all along. 

I had to literally trust what God was telling and teaching me, and not those ugly hateful hurtful words of my husband. I didn’t give him someone to fight up against. I had put satan in his place. I was winning. I was silencing Satan’s hackling laughter which I could hear and didn’t want him to enjoy that laughter any longer.  I no longer was allowing satan to poke jabs at me and get me stirred up with anger. 

Sure there were times I hurt and I cried but I took all these things to my Father and He consoled me. He also put a trusted friend in my life that had agreed to stand with me in this, praying with me, being the believer I needed to help me fight the good fight for my marriage and for our family. 

Pray in the Spirit. God says in I Corinthians 14:2-4 that you’re speaking mysteries; that means satan can’t understand you! It really bugs him. Also, you are edifying and building yourself up in your spirit-man. To some of you you may not quiet understand this concept and it is also referred to as speaking in tongues. 

Pray for the understanding and God will tell you things to pray for in English, verse 15. You never pray in doubt and disbelief when you pray in the spirit; the spirit always prays the Will of God. Isn’t that awesome? What more can we ask for’ God has made provision for everything! What an awesome God we live for! Romans 8:26-37 “Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: For we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. And he that searcheth the hearts knoweth what is the mind of the Spirit, because he maketh intercession for the saints according to the Will of God.”

Spend time interceding in the Spirit for your partner. God is not feeble-minded or hard of hearing. He hears us the first time we pray; after that, all we have to do is confess we have it and thank Him for it. Now you can’t do that for very long for you need to get to work praying so...you can pray in the spirit for him or her by the hour while you are doing something else! There really is no excuse to sit and wallow in self-pity or fear. There is no excuse for idle time even if you are the one away from home. PRAY! Learn to be quiet and give God a chance to talk back to you. 

If you are away from home, you have the perfect opportunity to get to know God intimately for He desires to fellowship with His children. Some evangelists and others we know have to take a trip to have peace and quiet and hear God speaking to them. I like to listen to quiet music, nothing that is distracting and just sit and picture Jesus and I sitting and talking. I ask Him questions and I wait for His answers and most of the time I just listen for what He wants to say to me. I also journal everything! Even my dreams, things I hear in sermons and thoughts and my prayers.

Turn your situation into a blessing. Redeem and utilize this time! Before you know it satan will be running, saying, “Darn it I lost again!” There really is no excuse for moping. Either God can be your strength and comfort in your time of need or He can’t. Its up to you. He promises the joy of the Lord is your strength whether you are with or without your mate. 

When Jesus truly has first place in your life, when you really learn how to depend on Him, not your mate, for your happiness...your partner will be home in no time at all. Your problem came as a result of Jesus not being your source, your all-in-all, in the beginning. 

When you make the Lord Number One, you are free; your mate no longer has the power to upset you! When you and Jesus have a good thing going, everything else goes good too. Jesus won’t fall off His throne if you don’t praise Him and get to know Him this well, but he knows your relationship with Him makes you an overcomer in this life. He loves us and wants us to have victory in all areas of our lives. He wanted it so much He was willing to suffer and die to get it for us.

Give your mate over to the Lord. Let the Lord have full responsibility for him or her. Don’t you try to talk your mate home; they won’t listen anyway. Just let the love of Jesus shine out of your face when you’re with them. It’s God’s job to change them, not yours. You and Jesus work on you and let your partner and Jesus work on that half. 

Next we will cover more Biblical scriptures in which to base these promises on so be greatly encouraged!

Search the Word for more promises from God to you so that you can stand on and confess. Isaiah 55:11 “So shall My Word be that goeth forth out of My mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.” Think of it whenever you speak God’s Word, it will not return void! Jesus always spoke His promises and that’s why God gave Him the Spirit without measure. Would you like to have the spirit without measure? Then speak the Word of God. 

God’s Word and His promises are always conditional. Notice that He talks about how you are to do your part and He will do His. 

Psalms 37:4-5 “Delight thyself also in the Lord’ and He shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in Him; and He shall bring it to pass.” 

Proverbs 3:5-6 “trust in the Lord with all thine heart; lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy paths.”

Proverbs 16:7 “When a man’s ways please the Lord, He maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him.” 

James 4:7, 8, 10 “Submit yourself therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord and He shall lift you up.” 

This next one will be used more when you’re back together again than right now as you may be separated but it is a good one to start remembering. James 5:15-16 “Confess your faults one to another and pray for one another that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of the righteous man availeth much.” 

Remember that Abraham’s faith was counted as his righteousness. God is bigger than your mistakes. If you know you’ve messed up, don’t berate yourself or fall into discouragement as you know satan would just love that. And don’t accept self-condemnation for Jesus doesn’t put thought of condemnation in your mind, its satan once again. 

Just go immediately to the throne of grace, ask for and receive your forgiveness and remain in fellowship with God.  You may be asking “How can I ever ask God to forgive me again, He must be really disgusted with me and tired of forgiving me” are all straight from the pit of hell and satan himself. He wants nothing more than to make you think that God is mad at you, that He couldn’t possibly love you.

You really need to walk and be in love. So confess I Corinthians 13:4-7 in the first person. Charity means love and you need to be love, so say, “I do not envy, I endureth all things, I am not easily provoked, etc...” Put your partner’s name in and confess it on them. Before Jesus comes, we’re going to need all the love we can get, so start now. The Word is alive, active and energizing and will become part of who you are now!

Let’s get you praying, let’s teach you how to begin praying and soon it will become a common language of love for you. Either you are already saved and are recommitting your life to Christ, or you have not ever given your life to Christ, so this is the perfect time to do so. Romans 10:9-19 says “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness’ and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.” 

If you say, “Well, I’ve done that all my life in church with everyone else every Sunday, what’s the big deal, nothing happened then.” This time you, just you, are going to step out of the meaningless ritual and make a heart commitment, and Jesus, Who goes by the intents of the heart, will fill you with His love and his Holy Spirit and strength to stand on faith until your marriage is healed. So right now, wherever you are, open your mouth and say:

“Father God, right now I want to invite Your Son, Jesus, into my heart. I make Him my Savior, my Lord; I accept everything You did for me on the cross, Jesus. I am sorry for every sin I ever committed and I ask Your forgiveness and receive it now. Take over my life, Lord; You lead and I will follow You to the best of my ability. And now I thank You for filling me with Your Holy Spirit. I am now born-again and a legal child of the most high God. Satan, I renounce you. you will never lord it over me again. Jesus is my Lord, Praise you Jesus. I love You Jesus.”

If you just became born again I want to welcome you to the family of God! If you are certain your husband or wife is not born-again, then pray for them to receive Christ right now. With all of these prayers, if you have a trusted Christian friend or friends praying for you, you can agree according to Matthew 18:19 “Again I say unto you, that if two of you shall agree on earth as touching anything that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.”Now this doesn’t mean to run and grab any Christian you can find and get them to agree with you. 

Most would say, “Sure, I will,” before they even found out what you wanted them to agree on. When someone agrees with you, they must believe it in their heart as much as you do and be willing to confess that “It’s done!” in spite of what things look and sound like after you pray. 

“Father God, I come before Your throne to claim the salvation of my (husband or wife). I know I am praying according to Your Will because You say in I Timothy 2:4 that You will to have all men to be saved and to come unto the knowledge of the truth of the Gospel. I ask You to place Word-filled born-again Christians in his/her path every day to tell him or her about the peace of Jesus. I know You will do this, Father, because in Mark 11:24 You say I can have what I desire when I pray if I believe I have it and Father I believe I have it now and I thank You for it. I ask and receive all this in the precious Name of Jesus, my Lord. 

It is truly time to get to know Jesus better, better than you have ever done so before. Do not try to tell your mate about the big changes in you. When Jesus starts molding you and making you into the person you’ve always been meant to be, it will easily show. Let the light just shine out of you! Then I promise your mate is going to notice and even say to him or herself or even to you, “There is something very different about you, what has happened to you?” Then you can go ahead and tell them about Jesus.

I shared with you about journaling and how I feel it is very important. It is best to write out your prayer for the healing of your marriage because when satan assaults your mind with doubt and fears, you can wave the prayer or your journal in his face and say, “Satan it is written...” and defeat him with the sword of the Word just like Jesus did every time He was tempted by satan. 

“Father God, I come before you to obtain help in the time of need. I believe Jesus when He said in Luke 4:18 that He is empowered of the Spirit to heal the broken hearted. I understand that according to I John 5:14-15 if I pray anything according to Your Will, You will hear me and I have the petition desired in Mark 11:24 I can have whatever I desire when I pray. I know my prayer is according to Your Will because you say in Matthew 19:6, “What God hath joined together let no man put asunder.” 

In Mark 11:23 You say to speak to my mountain. So I say to my marriage “be healed and to any thoughts or plans of divorce, be thou removed and be thou cast into the sea!” I take authority over you, satan, and break your assignments on me and my marriage and family. You are rendered helpless and inoperative in Jesus Name! I bind all demonic spirits that have harassed my family with and Matthew 18:18 says whatever is bound on earth is hound in heaven and whatever is loosed on earth is loosed in heaven. I now loose love and healing into my family and marriage in the Name of Jesus. 

Now, I thank You, Father for starting the spiritual wheels turning to manifest my prayer in the physical. I release my faith on it and believe that I have it now! Right now I have it! I praise You and give You all the glory and honor, Father and I pledge not to keep the good news of how Jesus heals marriages to myself but I will tell it to other families in trouble who will see our living testimony. Set a watch on my lips Father, to confess only what Your Word says, that my marriage is healed. Help me to walk by faith and not by sight, II Corinthians 5:7. Help me to cast down all foolish imaginations according to II Corinthians 10:5.

From now on my confession is that my God has healed my marriage. I thank You Father and I receive this prayer in the precious Name of Jesus my Lord.  I pray all of this in agreement according to Matthew 18:19

Sign your name to this prayer_______________________________________

Satan, it is written in I John 3:8 that Jesus came to destroy the works of the devil. In Col. 2:15 Jesus spoiled your principalities and powers and made a show of them openly triumphing over them in hell. You are a defeated foe. I bind you satan over my marriage, my family and my life in the Name of Jesus. 

All power in the earth and heaven is in the Name of Jesus, Matthew 28:18 says so. Satan, you are overcome by the blood of the Lamb of Jesus, and by the word of my testimony. I will accept no doubts or fears from you, satan, and I rebuke you and you in the Name of Jesus and command you out of my thoughts. I am a child of God and you are an illegal trespasser. I resist you in the Name of Jesus and the Word of God says in James 4:7 that you will flee from me. So be gone! 

You don’t have to have all the answers in your Christian faith to have God operate fully in your life. It doesn’t matter if you are new to the faith or have been raised in the faith. Confess Ephesians 1:17 on yourself, that you have the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of God. You have not because you ask not!

I want to encourage you not to give in to the pity party of talking with others about spouses and their faults. Resist the impulse to join in on those type of conversations. 1 Peter 3:8-13 says “Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous; not rending evil for evil, or railing for railing; but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing. For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil  and his lips that they speak no guile; let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace and ensue it. For the eyes of the Lord are of the Lord are over the righteous and his ears are open unto their prayers; but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil. And who is he that will harm you, if be followers of that which is good?” 

A Christ Centered Marriage means you are of one flesh and this is what you want, this is what you are asking for when you ask God to heal your marriage. You are really talking against yourself when you gossip about your partner and satan can only tell if his little games are working on you if he hears it out of your mouth or sees it by your actions! 

When you both are together working in this marriage you need to practice talking things over, praying about it and correcting it in love, binding satan over the whole situation and thus he has lost his dirty work in your life. 

Philippians 4:6-7 “Be careful (or anxious) for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God will passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” 

Pray desired qualities into your mate. Ask God to put qualities into your mate, pray unquenchable thirst for the Word on him or her. Confess Ephesians 1:17. Find other promises and confess them over and for your mate. Pray and then thank Him that your partner now possesses the desires of those prayers. 

Maybe not right away, but one day you will begin to see and hear those prayers manifested in your mate and you can smile and know where those things originated, they did so in you and your prayers. 

God is so gentle, He loves people into changing, with no nagging on your part, it’s painless and you’ve got the peace that passeth understanding reigning in your life. There are so many areas of our lives that need prayer and confession over it. Confess Philippians 4:19 daily whether or not you need money. If you do, speak to that mountain of financial need and cast it into the sea. Say, “Bank account be full. Money go get in my bank account. Financial lack, be gone! I have been redeemed!” Look at the Word in every situation, not the symptoms. 

Your aim in your healed marriage is to make all decisions together, together in unity, the unity of the one flesh mindset that God intends for you to have. One flesh couples share, weigh, pray and decide which way to go and move together in support of the mutual decision.  

Do not be double minded. For example if either party drug their feet and not supported the decision is placing their one flesh in the same position as the double-minded man who receives nothing from the Lord according to James 1:-6-8.  This is much more serious than making a occasional wrong decision.  You want to learn and practice not being double minded. 

I Corinthians 1:10 says, “Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgement. 

Ephesians 4:2-3 “With all lowliness and meekness, with long-suffering forbearing one another in love’ endeavoring to keep the unity of the spirit in the bond of peace.” Long-suffering means that you must have consistency, steadfastness and be never changing).

Philippians 1:27 “...that ye stand fast in one spirit with one mind...”

Do not blame one another for errors. He truly looks at us as one flesh marriages. I Corinthians 12:26 says “And whether one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; or one member be honored, all the members rejoice with it.” If one of us gets a job promotion it is the rejoicing of the part of both people in the marriage. If one suffers the other suffers too. This is how it works.

Let’s get to this whole submissive issues. I think in general you are pretty sure what a man thinks of this and what a woman thinks of this. Lets see really what God thinks of it. Ephesians 5:21-33. In verse 25 it says “Husbands, love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it.”  That means more than being prepared to die in defense of your wife. It means be prepared to give up of your SELF, your SELFish desires, getting your own way as we’ve tried to do from childhood. God is a genius. His plan, without selfishness looming up to blind us into always seeing what “the big I” will gain or lose, is pure blessing for both husband and wife. If the husband loves his wife as much as Christ does, he will be such a joy to live with that its no sacrifice for the wife to submit or “agree” with him. It does not say you as a husband get what you want. This comes first with instructions for you. 

Verse 21 says to submit yourselves one to another, that’s both of you, agreeing together, keeping the peace. Verse 22 points out that wives must submit or agree with their own husbands, not anyone else’s husband. There are many men, even pastors, who crave to have authority over people and read these scriptures with a devil-distorted view and try to tell everyone’s wife what to do, how to dress, wear make-up, etc. This was meant to tell women to beware of men who would try to get them under bondage. Their “own” husbands is repeated in verse 24.

Women need, most of all, to be loved and to be shown they are loved. Men, need most of all, to be admired and to be shown they are admired. This is borne out of scripture; God commands husbands three times to love their wives but tells women to reverence or admire their husbands. 

Verse 31 and 33 “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife and they two shall be one flesh. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife as himself; and the wife see that she reverences her husband.” Wives, build your husbands up, be behind him in all he does, let him know he’s your prince, your hero, your knight in shinning armor and you’ll be treated as his princess. 

One-flesh marriages definitely is a two-way street. Our cultures has its own definition as to how a wife is to be and how a husband is to be. But God has taught us that the husband’s role of responsibility means keeping strife out of the home at all costs, this includes relying on the wisdom God has given the wife as much as his own. 

Don’t get upset if your wife doesn’t see eye to eye with you instantly and say “Well, I’m head of the this and we’ll do it my way!” That really doesn’t solve anything and builds resentment. Even if the husband is right, the wife likes to feel she, as a person, has opinions that her husband counts worthy of consideration. She likes to know she is valuable to you that you really won’t go ahead on something you would like to do if she is truly against it. She too has a relationship with God. He talks to her as well. Just knowing how much my husband values my point of view it takes the pressure off, the feeling of being forced into something. Caring about the other person more than yourself really has tremendous rewards like no hassling, peace of mind; the things that the world pays a fortune to obtain and never can until they get Jesus. 

For a true one-flesh marriage it is important to pray together daily, but even if you are not there yet, it is important to pray over such decisions and know that just because the two of you may be in agreement over something, you really need to get God’s opinion and Word on the decision in order for it to work out right. 

It is really important to learn how to hear God’s voice and being sensitive to the Holy Spirit. This requires your time. It is important to know where those thoughts in your head are coming from. Discipline yourself to wait until you are certain you have heard from God. 

The two of us pray daily and we come together to pray. But one special thing we like to do we call “Soaking in the Spirit.” It is a time we play soft worship music, some without much distraction and we picture ourselves in a place sitting with God and just being with Him. We may have questions we would like to ask of Him and as we are led we ask those and we wait upon His response. 

Sometimes we just sit and listen for Him to speak. This is especially important during major decision times in our lives. Satan is lurking around, behind every corner trying to get something on God’s children. He hates you to pray and spend time with God because through His Holy Spirit will tell you what satan is up too! He really is a loser when we’re wearing our spiritual armor and we are equipped for battle. 

Satan can speak thoughts to people and put feelings, desires and cravings on people. Satan can afflict your mate with confusion and depression among other things. These are literal spirits sent to whisper thoughts to him or her to oppress them. He or she can hear these thoughts in his/her mind thinking they are their own and speaking them out of his mouth, and believing them. 

Satan is the prince of the power of the air and everyone, even Christians hear thoughts from him. It is up to each person as to whether or not we buy into his lies of temptation, failure, adultery, etc. We’ll not quit hearing from him until Jesus binds him in the pit so it’s no disgrace to have a thought from the devil, it’s what you do with it. But the truth of the matter is, most people are not aware of what’s going on in the spirit world and are therefore quite helpless against satan. This is how he attempts to bring a person to destruction...through the mind. He knows if you can get a man’s mind, you can get the man. 

In II Corinthians 10:5 the Bible commands us to cast down imaginations and bring every thought into captivity and obedience to Christ. Every Christian should get to know God’s Word well enough that he can censor his own thoughts and know who it is speaking to him. God or the evil one? If they are not from God then you should ignore them and not act on them. When God speaks it lines up with His Word always.

So many people don’t know this and are led by the nose by satan unless someone stands in the spiritual gap for them. As the one standing for the marriage you must use your spiritual weapons and assist your partner by praying for him or her or when you can talk about this. You must ask that his thoughts are in obedience of Christ. 

Many people don’t realize they have a mission from God just to work on one soul. They think they must go on a mission trip to Africa.  God loves each person so much that He will do anything to save them. You may very well be your partner’s salvation and that is a mighty work to be done. I Corinthians 7:16 says “How do you know but what you may be your husband’s salvation?” I urge you to use the keys of binding and loosing that Jesus died on the cross to give to you. 

Make a list of things that are not Christ like characteristics of your spouse, things he or she said and has done. Include things he or she has even said to you like I don’t love you anymore, I don’t want to be married anymore, God told me to get a divorce and be happy. All of these are destructive things of your marriage.

First Corinthians 14:15 says, “So what shall I do? I will pray with my spirit, but I will also pray with my mind; I will sing with my spirit, but I will also sing with my mind.” Ephesians 6:18 says, “And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints.” Jude 20 says, “But you, dear friends, build yourselves up in your most holy faith and pray in the Holy Spirit.” God will help you call everything to mind that He wants you to combat in the Name of Jesus. God is just waiting for you to get going and bind the devil. God will not bind the devil for you; He sent Jesus to die and buy the power for you to do it in His name.

Praying in the Spirit refers to how we are praying. Praying in the Spirit is praying according to the Spirit’s “leading.” It is praying for things the Spirit leads us to pray for. Romans 8:26 tells us, “In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express.”

Unless you do it, it won’t get done. That’s why so many prayers seem to take so very long to be answered. So ask God to guide and assist you in this list of characteristics and thoughts I mentioned that your partner has unwittingly received from the devil. God knows exactly what the devil has been up too and He will tell you if you take the time to ask and listen. What you find out don’t go holding it against your mate just put a stop to it with the spiritual weapons. 

With your list you will say; Satan, in the Name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, I come against you and I bind you according to Matthew 18:18 and all your powers, principalities, rulers of darkness of this world and spiritual wickedness in high places. I render you helpless, deaf and dumb and inoperative in my spouse’s spirit, mind, body and life. You will not influence, motivate, or speak to my spouse anymore in the Name of Jesus, and specifically speak to the spirits causing the following: then read your list.

Make a list of “loosing” (releasing) and go through all the anti-Christ qualities and “loose” godly counterpart qualities and thoughts from the Holy Spirit on him or her. Loose clarity of thought and stability and even temper to combat confusion and depression. Loose the desire to know and please Jesus with his or her life. Loose unquenchable thirst for the Word of God, that he or she can’t pass by a Bible without picking it up and reading it. Loose thoughts of love for you, desire to see your marriage healed and happy. Everything you want him/her to be, loose on him or her. Then daily, thank God that, by faith he or she has these qualities. See how it works? Once he or she cannot hear the devil screaming at them anymore, the voice of the Holy Spirit comes through, and you see a life turn around. 

Glory to God, these spiritual weapons really are powerful to pulling down of satan’s strongholds!  No one is sure how long it will take for your marriage to be healed except for God and His perfect timing, but Galatians 6:9 tells us, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”  Use this time to learn a priceless and always useful resource that you will use all of your life and in other’s lives...how to bind and loose. 

In a story shared with me when I was standing in the healing of my marriage I read where there was a wife who did not contribute in strife in the conversations with her husband who was having an affair, instead she would just listen and take notes of the ridiculous junk he was saying. Then she would use it to bind and loose satan from him. You must know that the devil is persistent. You will bind one thing and he will think up another almost like it to try and fool us into thinking our binding hadn’t done any good. But is so happens when she became more persistent and knew that satan is subject to us in the Name of Jesus she continued to bind and loose and believe they were bound no matter what this husband sounded or acted like, as God says we must in Mark 11:23. 

One of her most dramatic results of binding in their situation  was once when he said “I can never set foot in that house again!” She said “Okay devil, we break the power of the assignment that told my husband  he could never set foot in his house again and forbid you to ever put that thought in his head again in the Name of Jesus. Two days later, he burst through the front door for his first visit since he left home! 

This went on for two months. The devil would tell her to give up on this no-good bum and her “self” would want to succumb and wallow around in how much he had hurt her, but the Jesus in this fairly - new Christian would’t let her yield and give up! Meanwhile, she also worked hard on cleaning up all her bad habits and things her husband hadn’t like about her. When the devil ran out of thoughts and God’s thoughts took over, her husband came home to her! They both began their new life together and are happily praising God and attending church together. Her husband is the first one to raise his hands in praise that God is his Lord and Savior. 

My husband had told me he didn’t love me anymore, that at times he couldn’t even stand to look at me. Those were such hurtful things and could have drove me to give in to his demands for a divorce. But I had to trust God more on His Word than the words coming from my husband’s mouth. 

When learning how to use my spiritual weapons I would also dream of the day I would hear what it was I wanted to hear. And yes, it did come true in much more deeper ways than I could ever imagine. When God gives you something He gives it to you big time! 

Tune in to God every day to inquire if satan has put any new assignments on your mate and if so, you know what to do, and what to do to win this war! The Spirit of our Lord is alive and well living in our lives today! Praise God! 

I love you, Diana